A: Eighty-five per cent of people leave their job within three months of accepting a counter offer from their employer. When initially looking for a new role, you should carefully evaluate your motivation for moving and what you hope to achieve from your new role. It may be that your reasons for moving can be addressed with your manager - without the need for you to secure a new role.

It is essential that you remember and refer back to your original reasons for wanting a new position, whether it's salary, additional responsibility, better culture, work life balance etc. Handing in your notice is a nerve-racking and unpleasant experience. After all, you have spent years building a relationship with your manager.

When someone resigns what really goes through their boss's mind? It is not how much they are going to miss you; it is the extra cost and workload associated with losing a team member and having to replace them. In order to prevent you from leaving they will tell you what you want to hear i.e. an immediate pay rise.

These 'promises' are made without proper planning and budget, so they rarely come to fruition. For example, if you get a pay rise now, will you still be eligible for one in June? You should also consider that once you have handed in your notice, the relationship and trust between you and your manager can be lost and may create an uncomfortable atmosphere and working environment.